By Gina Jacobson, a mom, a leo.  She works for a  non-profit organisation, is a procrastinator, loves sci-fi, sushi, good books and scrabble.Her blog is made up of A Bit of This a Bit of That.

Aaron is finally going to play school, he starts on Monday 25th January.  I am nervous and excited for him.

We keep mentioning that he is going to school and what a big boy he is.  We tell him that he is going to draw and paint and play on the jungle gym and read stories and play with the other children and make things for mommy and daddy.

I think he is excited to do these things even though he doesn’t really know what we are talking about.

The other big change we are going to have this year is moving into a big boy bed.  Aaron is literally, a big boy, he is very tall and he is rapidly out growing the cot.  My question is, how do we transition him to the bed?

Again, we mention to him that he is going to have a big bed like mommy and daddy.  But does he really understand?  Also, Im worried about him not staying in his bed.  How do we get him to stay there, even if he wakes up?  I would rather he calls us and we go to him than he come to us.

The other question is, should we wait until he is settled at play school or make the move at the same time?  I don’t want to overwhelm the poor kid.

How did you handle these amazing milestones in your child’s life?

5 Responses to “Playschool and big boy beds”

  • Kerry says:

    IMHO, if he’s a well-adjusted, generally happy child, you won’t have a problem with the changes – if he’s ready to go to playschool, he’ll have a blast, and will be tired enough at nighttime that he’ll sleep through ;-) Also, we suspected with our older son that the cot was simply uncomfortable for him – also a big boy, so it’s entirely possible that the mattress wasn’t thick enough, and the cot was just too hard.

    I think you’re doing brilliantly at making the milestones to be rewards for being a big boy, and for encouraging him, telling him that they ‘re exciting, positive things (because they are, even though it’s kind of sad to see your little boy growing up).

    Keep up the positive vibes though – if he picks up that you’re nervous or stressed or sad when you take him to playschool, he’ll respond to that, and you’ll both land up in tears. And even if he cries – he’ll stop as soon as you’ve left, and he’s found something to keep himself busy with. The playschool teacher should help you with that… might also help for you to go there for an hour or so with him during one of their days, so that you can show him around, and show him that it’s fun and safe there. You could also see what toys he favours on that day, and when you drop him off on the 25th, make sure he’s got that to play with when you leave.

    If it’s any consolation… my little one has cried twice in four months of playschool – he grins at me and waves goodbye and gets on with playing… Sorry – make that three times – the third was when he thought that one of the other moms was me, and insisted on going home with her. Now THAT made me feel special… ;-)

    Good luck with the milestones, they’re something to celebrate.

    K

  • jozikids says:

    Thanks Kerry for great feedback, sound advise. So so helpful and as usual wonderfully expressed

  • exmi says:

    My Kid went to a daymother/playgroup from 8months of age. No problems, no crying, no hassle. Why? Because even tho I worried immensely and missed him like crazy, I never let him sense my anxiety. I lasted two hours that first day before I called to check how he was doing. I was told he was happy and fine. When I picked him up, I saw that he was. Interaction with other children is essential. My kid often talks about a boy named jayden, and it’s good to know he has a friend there. Makes it a bit easier for me.

    I have no doubt aaron will love the broadened horizons and new opportunities that playschool will offer him. Just keep up with the chilled positive approach.

    As for the big boy bed, we’re there too. I’m planning on including my kid in picking out the bed and the linen and making it fun for him. As for keeping him in his bed, I’m not entirely sure. It might not even be a problem, so let’s face it when it *is* one, shall we?

  • Mina says:

    Hi Gina, Your little boy might just surprise you and sleep all night. Infact you might have put the horse before the cart. i would let him settle into a new school routine before he gets the big bed.

    A good idea for the bed is to let him help you pick out the stuff and even move the bed inside his room. This will help.
    I changed my daughters room as a surprise without her knowledge and she won’t go near her bed. So I am now painting her room and getting her to help. This might do the trick.
    I think Aaron is going to love his new bed.
    Good Luck

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