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By Fatima Kazee, fulltime mum to Imaad (8), Zayn(6) and Zahreen (3), part-time wife to fisherman husband Aadil. She’s addicted to sneakers anything chocolatey & is an invaluable part of the Jozikids and Kznkids team.

So I recently posted on Facebook about how excited I get when the kids come home with no homework for the day. Of the 32 people that liked the post, 1 was my husband purely because I think he can sense from the mood when he comes home that there’s been no frustration on that day. The other 31 were all mothers who probably feel the same way as I do. And I’m guessing that there are many more that can relate.

Look I’m not lazy when it comes to doing homework. Ok, maybe only when it’s long division because that stuff just confuses me beyond words! It’s more of an issue because of the amount of homework the kids get these days. My boys are in grade 3 and grade 1 and having to spend at least an hour and a half each day with homework is just craziness. With the elder one it’s not so bad, he does most of it by himself and I have to just check it. With the younger one, who also happens to be the middle child, it’s a IMG_1866fighting, screaming, crying (mostly by me) episode most days. I have to beg and bribe him just to sit down, he hates it, does it untidily just to get it done and even resorts to ‘forgetting’ his books at school just to avoid having to do it. And all this in grade 1 only!

I’ve tried all sorts of tactics to get him writing his letters correctly and the right way round, to do his sums neatly and to read his mind-numbingly boring readers with some enthusiasm, but he couldn’t care less. He thinks it’s all a waste of his time as he doesn’t use it at all and he won’t need it one day when he grows up and becomes a robot maker. (Maybe he’ll create one that does homework for kids) He doesn’t follow the instructions – use a red colour to show the smaller object – no; he’ll just use blue to show how much he feels it’s a waste of time. And it’s not that he can’t do it or that he doesn’t understand the work. He just doesn’t get enough time to play and unwind.

I agree. By the time they’re done with school, extra murals in school and Islamic classes after school, its 4.30pm and there’s hardly any time for free play. I don’t remember getting that much homework or my mum having to sit with me every day, breaking her head with homophones (yes I now know what those are), nouns and number lines. Don’t they have enough time during school to finish all the work? Are children nowadays not as bright as before so they need extra work?

And all the while that I grit my teeth and wade through the mountains of Maths, English and Afrikaans, I think about how much harder it’s going to get as they get older. I have friends with older kids who find it necessary to point this out to me. Even if they didn’t, I can see it in their sallow faces having been up till 11pm helping with science assignments and art projects. Then again, maybe we’re all just over-parenting…

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Evaluating whether moving schools can help

Susan FrieseBy Susan Friese, mother of twins, passionate teacher and counsellor with a post-graduate degree in Clinical Psychology. She has Springbok colours in Martial arts, teaches Kung Fu in her spare time and runs a study centre for Cambridge students called To Educate Academics

A multitude of factors play a role when removing a child from one schooling environment and placing them in another, from professional assessment to mummy knows best to what does the child WANT to do.

Professional Assessment

This is a starting point where you can explore what your child is actually capable of and whether he/she is achieving this in their current situation. This can be a school readiness test, an IQ test, tests for cognitive impairment or numerous other psychological issues.  You can also explore issues such as whether a child is distracted by having other kids in the class or if there are home issues creating obstacles to learning.
For example, if you and your spouse are having marital problems, now is really not the time to start homeschooling your kids. Instead it  would be the time to find them a supportive academic environment that is removed from the home and can provide a fall-back safe space for the child. Somewhere to escape to if needs be and act like a kid, not a buffering zone.

Emotional considerations
Of course one also needs to remember that extreme emotional conditions will contribute to a child scoring lower on an IQ test than if she were happy! So if she is unhappy she will not appear as bright as she could otherwise. The counsellor or psychologist can guide you towards alternative schools (or indeed a return to mainstream) or treatment where necessary but use your instinct as a parent to make the final decision.

Conformism vs growth

Shouldn’t kids  learn to conform to prepare them for ‘varsity and  the workplace? The real answer is no.When I was unhappy at my government school the psychologist I saw for IQ testing urged my parents to keep me in a traditional environment so I would learn to conform, thank god my parents didn’t listen! As soon as I moved to a new, freer environment I blossomed. I finally started achieving academically and growing emotionally.

Did Einstein fit into school? No, he dropped out and went on to achieve remarkable feats.  Did Richard Branson succeed in school? No. Before Branson quit school, his headmaster told him he would either end up in prison or become a millionaire. And many people assumed the former. Of course these people are exceptions and exceptional but it does show that not every child will fit in and they should not be forced to. They should be free to consider an alternative environment where different focuses are apparent. That may be a more sporting environment or a ballet school. It may be a study centre with a focus on creativity. It may be a college where teachers are more permissive. It could be a remedial school. It could be your home. Whatever you child needs, allow them to discuss it with you.

Special needs
A child on the autism spectrum is not going to “get better” by staying in a school where he is bullied. He will not adjust and learn to get on with it. A painfully shy child will not “come out of her shell” if forced to do PE in a swimsuit in front of the whole school (we had to do this at my old school, it was mortifying). For many kids this is all fine and good and well. But what if it’s not? What if your child is the one who doesn’t fit in?

My story

I left a government school at the end of the 3rd term to move to a Cambridge centre. I completed 5 levels in 6 weeks. I have 2 degrees and a passion for education that extends beyond my textbooks. I am the owner/operator of a study centre in Randburg where students complete an international high school syllabus though Cambridge and become happy and healthy individuals.

The teen spirit is a unique and vibrant entity, don’t let it be quashed.

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It’s never too late to change schools

Susan FrieseBy Susan Friese, mother of twins, passionate teacher and counsellor with a post-graduate degree in Clinical Psychology. She has Springbok colours in Martial arts, teaches Kung Fu in her spare time and runs a study centre for Cambridge students called To Educate Academics

I often receive  queries from parents asking “Isn’t it too late to change my child’s school?” It may be the end of the first term, mid year or in the last few weeks of the school year. My answer is always  – no, it’s not too late if your child is unhappy.

Why are kids unhappy at school?  Maybe they don’t find the work challenging,  they have a personality conflict with teachers or they don’t fit in with their peer group. In many cases the school and the student just aren’t a good fit.  And some kids just hate school. They hate the autocratic style of classroom dynamics and they battle with kids their own age. A huge percentage of school time is spent changing classrooms, queuing at the tuck shop, waiting for teachers and  for the class to “settle down”. 30% of the day wasted.

If your child wants to change schools,  is forcing them to stay building character and teaching them to fit in?  Most likely they will learn to avoid certain situations, people and places. They will learn to tune out,  drag their feet and be late for every class. As a parent and educator I want my kids to love learning. I want them to finish at their own pace and work on the subjects they love.

Pros and cons of all systems:

Mainstream: For some children this works. Government and independent schools offer relatively good academics and plenty of social interaction. The Matric is well recognised by local universities and employers. There is also usually a wide variety of physical activity and excellent sporting opportunities. The downside is big classes can be intimidating, the subject choices are limited and teachers are often overwhelmed.

International Schools: Here you get a great variety of languages and subjects sometimes not offered at regular SA schools. There is also more exposure to accents, ethnicities and cultures plus greater access to opportunities to study abroad. The downside is that SA universities can sometimes be a stickler with the more varied subject choices and qualifications. Your child may also develop an accent unlike your own which may or may not bother you.

Study centres: Whether for an SA Matric or a foreign qualification such as Cambridge, study centres offer wonderful opportunities for kids who don’t like the size or style of mainstream schools. There is no focus on sports as the kids can do these at club level if they choose. There is a greater educator to student ratio and bullying is virtually non-existent due to small groups and supervision. This is also an option for professional child athletes. The downside is if a child wishes to be in a larger social environment (more friends to choose from) or if they are unable to study relatively independently

Home schooling: This can be a wonderful experience for both parent and child as the time together is not limited by time factors or travelling distances. Parents can choose a local or international academic syllabus or can go syllabus free. This gives the child the opportunity to explore his or her own interests. It also provides a safe and secure environment for children that may have emotional issues or have experienced years of bullying. The downside: limited social exposure is definitely a factor regardless of how many social activities are scheduled. This is also a huge burden on the parent and such dedicated time makes it almost impossible to maintain a career. Universities also usually require some academic record for entrance.

So when should a child leave the current school?

You, as a parent, will know when. When he feels he doesn’t fit in, when she refuses to go to school every morning and life becomes a battle. When he comes home grumpy because the boys tormented him. When she is angry because her “friends” picked on her all day. When he says the teachers are stupid. When they don’t understand her.

One parent asked  me whether it was too late to move her grade 9 student?  She said her daughter was crying herself to sleep every night. She joined a study centre, caught up the whole year’s syllabus and is motivated and happy.

Whatever system works for your child is fine. Whether it’s mainstream or home school. Your child will make friends  he/she will have for life. Also don’t forget the role you play as a parent in those hours after school.

So what’s the problem? There is no problem, only change.

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Getting ready for big school next year!

Barry Bateman Family Portraits Dec 2012By Sholain Govender-Bateman – Pretoria-based New Media journalism lecturer, former The Star and Pretoria News journalist & editor of magazines. She is mum to two gorgeous girls, Isobel and Aishwari, and wife to Barry Bateman. Twitter @sholain 

It’s happened, Isobel is turning 7 next May which means that the transition to ‘big school’ has begun…for me. Of course, she’s thrilled with the prospect of meeting new friends, swimming in the big school pool and having loads of new adventures. I’m a bit more frazzled, especially after the run-up to the Grade 1 year that hubby and I have had.

The school prep started a few years ago with online searches for suitable primary schools. I had heard from so many other parents that you need to get your kid onto a waiting list/s if you didn’t want her losing a valued spot at a specific school. I excitedly sent queries through to as many private schools in the Pretoria area as I could…and when I got the fees lists back, I had a series of mini panic attacks.

We decided to keep our options open, there’s no way of knowing if we’d be millionaires by 2014/5!?

The next hurdle was getting the whole age thing right. All I could recall was that I started school at the age of 5. I actually know of people who planned their kids’ birth dates based on how it would affect their school progress meaning will the child be too young for their class year or too mature.

Having contacted a few highly recommended government schools previously, I was already aware that we were not in the feeder area of our first choice school. Then, when filling out application forms, I realised how valued space in these schools were. We had to provide heaps of certified documents, queue at Home Affairs for an unabridged birth certificate, collect proof of bond payments, lease agreements, letters from employers and more before the big day of handing in the application forms. We were number 2 on the B waiting list of our first choice school last year, and still didn’t get her in for Grade R there so this year we kept it simple and went for the school we qualify for, even though hubby and I don’t even go to that area of the suburb and it’s the opposite direction to our both work areas.

The day applications opened, I got to the school at 6.30am expecting to battle for a place in a long queue amongst hoards of other parents anxious for those prized spots. I must say, it was a bit of an anti-climax when I arrived at the one school to find that I was the first parent there.

We’re happy that Isobel is basically guaranteed the number one spot at our first choice. Proud to be a good mum and dad, we can relax for now…until the next parental hurdle appears. I just wonder what happens to the little children whose parents just didn’t bother even showing up to collect application forms…?

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Why I decided to homeschool

Mia-Von-Scha-kids2-150x150By Mia Von Scha, Transformational Coach, motivational speaker, children’s author, student to two Zen Masters (aka kids), avid cloud watcher and lover of life.

This was not the easiest decision I’ve ever had to make. I love my work. I love my kids. Not necessarily in that order. Making the decision to homeschool is not for everyone, and although I definitely thought it was for me, I knew it would involve some major changes both to my life and the rest of my family. So why did I do it?

Let me start by saying we were on our 5th school by the time I pulled my kids out of the system. I finally had to admit that I was never going to find a school that I liked because I didn’t agree with school in general. At heart I am both a rebel and a non-conformist and I find the system in general oppressive to creativity, limiting to an above average child, draining on a child’s natural energy and love of learning, and on the whole unnatural (I really don’t believe that any child was designed to sit for 5 hours or more a day).

On top of that I had some particular challenges to deal with, specific to my own children. Both my kids have what is clinically termed as “tactile defensiveness” but which I prefer to call being more attuned to your environment than everyone else! It means that they find certain textures and fabrics absolutely unbearable. School uniforms were a nightmare. My daughter cried at least once a day through the whole of Grade One just because the uniform was bothering her. And for the life of me I could not think of a good reason to give her as to why she had to wear it.

Along with this heightened sensitivity comes an aversion to too much noise. A classroom is not the easiest place to concentrate for any child, but for one who struggles with excess noise it is virtually impossible.

And to top it off, both my girls are particularly bright (they both score 3-5 years above their age group on all developmental assessments) and extremely creative. School is simply not set-up for the gifted child (and by the way, I see all children as gifted – it just takes someone with time and love to find out what their gifts are). They were bored and frustrated at having to continually work below their abilities.

We were also unfortunate enough to encounter some very uninspired teachers along the way – teachers who have no intention of going the extra mile, who are not interested in finding out what the children’s values are and communicating to them in a way that will inspire them, who have lost their own love of learning and are slowly killing it in the children in their care. We did, of course, come across some amazing teachers too, but they were sadly in the minority.

My kids, particularly the eldest, hated school. In Grade One! I personally loved school until I got to the higher grades, and I couldn’t imagine going through 13 years of hating a system and feeling there was no escape. I was lucky enough to know a few people already homeschooling and was able to see the joy and love of learning that had been reinstated in these homes, and I felt inspired. I figured that there was no way that I could do a worse job than some of the teachers we’d encountered, and at least whatever I did would be done with love.

Of course, I am at an advantage. For a start, both my husband and I work for ourselves so we’re both fairly flexible. I’ve also studied both Child Psychology and Education as part of my BA degree. And I’ve trained in coaching which included a lot of information on how the brain works, how we process information, and more importantly how we learn. So although I didn’t have a teaching diploma, I did feel confident that I could make it work. Not that it’s brain-science, mind you. If you relax and allow your children to guide you they’ll surprise you with how eager they are to absorb their worlds.

But it still wasn’t an easy decision. I had to completely overhaul the way that I work, as did my husband. We had an incredible learning curve trying to figure out what the curriculum was and how much of it we actually needed to adhere to. We had to teach ourselves to relax with complete uncertainty and an initial lack of structure. I’ve literally spent the last few months “unschooling” myself so that I can be open to how and what my children want to learn and fitting in with them instead of them having to fit in with some predetermined system.

Has it been easy? No. Has it been worth it? To see my children wake up after having had enough sleep, to not have to rush them through breakfast and force them into uncomfortable clothes, to allow them the freedom to move and eat and play and laugh and talk and be natural children, and to see them blossoming into eager learners filled with joy and curiosity… I’d say yes, it has.

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5 reasons why you should homeschool your child

Willemien von SolmsBy Willemien von Solms, mom to 2 sons who loves travelling, has worked as a journalist, editor and communications specialist. Currently works as executive head: Products at  Impak Education, curriculum provider for homeschooling parents and centres.

A sound education offers the best springboard into the future. Therefore, the choice of a school is one of the most important decisions you as parent will ever make. In South Africa, a growing number of parents are choosing homeschooling over private or public schools. This choice is protected by law, as the South African Schools Act (Section 51 of Act 84 of 1996) gives parents the legal right to educate their children at home.

Let’s have a look at some of the reasons why you should consider homeschooling.

1. Investing time in your child’s emotional, social, physical & intellectual development
“Spending time with children is more important than spending money on children.” – Anthony Douglas Williams, Inside the Divine Pattern. If you choose homeschooling, you take full responsibility for your child’s education and development, and accompany them on their journey to adulthood every single step of the way.

2. Flexibility to accommodate your child and family’s specific needs
A key feature of homeschooling is that children can progress at their own pace, in their own time. This allows you to accommodate your child’s and your family’s specific needs – ranging from frequent travelling for sport or performance commitments, language barriers, long distances to travel to and from school or a tragedy in the family, to a child who has trouble dealing with peer pressure or fitting into a rigid school system.

3. Control over the quality and content of your child’s curriculum
Homeschooling offers you the opportunity to make decisions about the content of your child’s curriculum. Research the various curriculum providers for homeschooling and choose the one that suits your circumstances, expectations, norms and values the best. A good curriculum provider will offer you the necessary material and assistance to guide your child through the education process, from Grade R to Grade 12.

4. Creating a safe environment in which your child can thrive
Receiving an education in the safe and familiar environment of the home provides a great educational experience for children – there is no more exposure to negative peer pressure or bullying, and no compromise is necessary on religious or moral beliefs. In addition, children in a homeschooling environment work individually, measuring themselves against their own performance and not a class average. As such, homeschooled learners identify their own strengths and weaknesses. They always have to take responsibility for their performance and they quickly learn that the outcome of their work equals their input.

5. Have fun!
It is such a privilege to spend the day with your child, be a part of their learning process and see the awe on their faces as they discover more about the world. Enjoy this time that you have together and keep your lessons fun. The opportunity to explore your child’s interests and strengths is a fascinating journey – treasure it.

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Dealing with your child’s school report

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By Mia Von Scha, Transformational Coach, motivational speaker, children’s author, student to two Zen Masters (aka kids), avid cloud watcher and lover of life.

I guess I was lucky at school to be one of those straight A students, as I can still remember the absolute dread with which many of my friends received their report cards at the end of the year. Not that they cared too much about the marks themselves – it was the fear of facing their disappointed parents that caused the term-end blues. So heading towards that dreaded day, what can we do as parents to help our kids to address any problem areas without damaging their self-esteem or love of learning?

I think the answer to this comes in looking at what a report card really is. First off, it is NOT a measure of who your child is as a person. They may have failed the year, but they are not a failure. As parents we really have to help our kids to make the distinction between who they are and what they do, and the best way to do this is to express our unconditional love for them no matter what the report card says.

Photo credit: http://singleparents.about.com

Photo credit: http://singleparents.about.com

A report is simply a measure of how a child managed to perform on certain standardized tests. If they come back with a low mark, it does not help to attack them for their “laziness” or anything else. What we need to do is assess what went wrong where. And this may even have nothing to do with the child themselves – it may be that the teacher was incompetent, or the test was not an accurate measure of what was learned, or it may be a reflection of other issues – family problems, changes at home or at school, bullying… there are so many things going on in our children’s lives that we will miss if we simply blame them without digging deeper.

On the other hand, we also need to be careful of over-praising a child with a “good” report. Once again, the report is not a measure of who the child is or their worthiness of our love and attention. Many over-achievers get the idea early on that they are only loved if they perform well and this sets them up for a life of stress and workaholism! The opposite may also be true, with children who are praised for good work giving up sooner or never even trying things that they may not be good at for fear of losing this “good girl/boy” status.

The appropriate response to a report card, in my opinion, is to ask the child what they think about their own report. Ask them how they feel about areas they struggled in and how you could assist them. Ask them how they feel about areas they did well in and if they need any additional stimulation. Use the report card as a discussion around what is going on in their lives and at school, and not as a measure of their self worth. If they have failed something, it is a great opportunity to discuss some of the great failures in history and how they never gave up.

And regardless of what it says, give them as big hug and a kiss and tell them you love them no matter what.

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The school dilemma – taking action

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by Mia Von Scha, Transformational Coach, motivational speaker, children’s author, student to two Zen Masters (aka kids), avid cloud watcher and lover of life

Shakira Sheikh recently wrote an article for Jozikids on the difficulties in finding a school for Grade 1, which clearly resonated with many of you on a very deep level. I also have kids both in Grade R and Grade 1 and so empathise deeply with this struggle. It is natural to feel a sense of helplessness and hopelessness at the current lack of schools, and yet the best solution I have found to these feelings has always been taking action.

Here are some ideas to get you going…

-       Homeschooling is always one option to look at, and if you spend some time online you will find many homeschooling groups where mother’s get together and support each other and help their kids to socialize.

-       A private tutor is another option, and while this may at first seem outside of your financial reach, if there are so many mothers in the same situation (and it certainly sounds like there are) why not join together and hire someone for a group of kids – look for a retired teacher or two looking for part-time work.

-       Look up and support local NPOs who are working to resolve this problem. A great one that I found recently is 2Enable.org, who are looking at setting up free educational programs that can be accessed online, specifically with the aim of alleviating the current lack of good teachers in the country.

-       Speak to local businesses and schools about joining together in initiatives to create new classrooms and sponsor more teachers.

-       Raise awareness of the issue – speak to your local radio stations, newspapers, and magazines. Write to the relevant governmental departments. Protest.

-       Call the government to task on this and on the general issue of how your tax money is being spent. Start a petition. Email them daily.

-       VOTE. When local and national elections come around, make sure you are in the voting queue. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard people complain about the state of the roads/schools/healthcare and yet they chose not to vote when the time came. If you’re not happy with what the current government is doing, vote them out.

-       Contact your Ward Councilor, explain the problem you’re having and brainstorm solutions. Call a meeting in your area.

These are just a few ideas to get you going, but chat with your friends in the same situation and see what other ideas you can come up with. Share them here too and get this conversation going. Remember that complaining about an issue takes time and energy – the same time and energy can be spent in working towards solutions.

There is a lovely quote by Lily Tomlin that is quite apt in this situation:

“I said, ‘Somebody should do something about that’. Then I realized, I am somebody”.

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Finding a school for Grade 1- what a mission!

shakira&boys thumbnailby Shakira Sheikh, devoted mom to 2 beautiful boys who loves cooking, crafting and working for Jozikids and Kznkids

My husband and I recently moved from Durban to Joburg with our 2 little boys, one of whom is approaching Grade 1. When we started looking for a school for him we had no idea what we would have to go through. WOW what a mission, what a process!  We’re still in it and waiting. This is what we’ve had to do so far:

Move homes
We researched and found 2 schools we were interested in. After discovering that they only accepted pupils living within a certain km radius, we decided to move homes to be closer to the schools. Lucky for us we found one  close to both.

Endless documentation
We had to fetch application packs from each school and then collect extensive boys3documentation for both parents with certified copies of Ids, birth certificates, clinic cards, proof of residence and then initialize every page.

Start queueing at 4am or camp out!
The schools set aside 3 days for submissions which they say they only accept on a first come first served basis. This  means that if you are number 13 in the queue your child will be number 13 on the list.

When I queried this with the schools, I was told most parents start lining up outside the schools from about 4 am to ensure they are first on the list

So we found a family member to look after our kids while my hubby and I went to wait in line at 4am. We each chose a different school.  When I got there I was no 3 while he  found he was no 6 in line already!

I discovered that most of the other parents queueing with me had done the same as us. Their partners were also waiting in line at other schools in the region, with some who had  people  who had camped out the night before.

Thank goodness the gates at the school opened for submissions at 5.30 am.  When it was my turn however I discovered I had another questionnaire to fill out, one the Education Department had forgotten to insert in the original submissions packs.

At least I managed to get it all done.  What a relief that stage one is over

Waiting game begins
It’s over but its not, as we were told that we have another 4 months to wait, before we will know whether  our son has been accepted or not.  What happens to those who aren’t?  Do they have to start all over again?

The lengths we as parents have to go to make sure we get the best for our kids. Why does it have to be so hard? What about parents that can’t move houses and find someone to look after their kids so they can queue at 4am? This really doesn’t seem fair

What do you think and can you relate to my experience? Is it the same in other parts of the country outside of Gauteng?

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Are your kids getting too much homework?

Mia Von Scha &kidsby Mia Von Scha, Transformational Coach, motivational speaker, children’s author, student to two Zen Masters (aka kids), avid cloud watcher and lover of life

Homework is an essential part of learning independent work and self-discipline… and I think that kids are getting far too much of it. Homework should be given out with this specific purpose in mind and not because there is so much schoolwork that it can’t fit in to the school day.

If kids are getting too much, it is your responsibility as a parent to take a stand. Get together with other parents in your child’s class and have something to say about it.  Play, fresh air, fun and down-time are as important to a child’s development as formalised learning and discipline, particularly in the Foundation and Intersen Phases.

This fits in to what I have said before about too many extra murals: Children, like all human beings, need time to be – not busy performing or excelling or proving their worth, just being.

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So how much is too much? If you look logically at the typical day of a school child this should become obvious:

6am-7am Waking and getting ready for school

7am-2pm School time

2pm-3pm Sport / extra murals

5pm-7pm Dinner, bathing etc.

7pm-8pm Story time or quiet time

8pm-6am Sleep (children of 7-10 years need around 10-11 hours per night)

This only leaves between 3pm-5pm for homework AND games, TV time, outdoor time, playdates etc. I would say that anything more than around half an hour per day is unreasonable at Primary School level, and certainly not more than an hour.

Look logically at your child’s day and make sure there is always down-time, unscheduled time, time to just be.

Life needs to be in balance and we need to help our kids with this by not overscheduling their time, by taking a stand on homework and by modeling this for our kids by getting enough rest and down-time ourselves.

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